This year marked my 5th anniversary as a stay-at-home mom. I have been out of the corporate world for 5 years but it seems longer. Do I regret leaving my corporate career to manage a home and raise the kids? No. Do I miss working in an office? Yes, I do. Let me tell you what are the things I missed from being a working mom.
Of course! I'd be lying if I say that I don't miss the salary I used to have when I was still in the corporate world. The pay helped the family income a lot and I get to spend more on things that I wanted.
A lot of moms are working from home and are earning more than what they used to in the office, and that's great! As for me, I still earn something from a part time job and have settled for what I am earning, because my current season in life demands more mommy time from my kids. I do hope that in 1-2 years I can gradually add more clients and increase the moolah.
What, privacy? Never heard about it. LOL! If you're a mom with kids aged 5 and below, you sure know what I am taking about. I. Cannot. Pee. Alone. There is always at least one child inside the toilet with me or I'd usually leave the door open and they are there on the opening, patiently (?!) waiting to finish my thing.
How much I missed peeing alone! At the office, inside the cubicle. Alone. The doors are locked and I can have a moment of peace with the toilet.
I was still working when I was pregnant with our eldest, Kuya V. I was the type of preggy wife who wouldn't bother her husband to get me the food I was craving for. I'd easily go to the mall across my office building and buy what I wanted. Even after giving birth, when I was stressed at work, I could easily buy what I was craving for. Hey, I'm a stress eater, judge me all you want. Haha!
With my second and third pregnancies, the life savers I had were food deliveries - and yes the late night pasalubongs of the husband that I've waited for all-day long.
With three rowdy kids who I would want to eat more healthy food and me slipping some unhealthy ones just to "feed" my sanity during chaotic days, it would be easier if I was working away from home.
I do own a comb, right? Wait. Lemme check my stuff.
Oh, hey, there you are! I haven't used you for a long time!
Finger combing is the new thing for stay-at-home moms.
Vacation/Sick Leaves and Time Outs
I loved the idea of filing my vacation leaves then, not so much for sick leaves because I can convert those to cash at the end of the year if I haven't used them.
Whenever you are so stressed or sick, you can file for a leave, or just step out for a breather and be away from those emails, meetings, negative people, and what-have-yous.
But if you are a stay-at-home mom, there are no leaves, no timeouts. You can't walk out of the house, have coffee at a shop and leave the kids alone at home. For girl dates, you need to make sure that the Husband doesn't go crazy while being left with kids. Luckily I have a husband who is a good cook, so one of the important details of handling kids is covered.
For moms who are still breastfeeding and have clingy babies and toddlers, it's even harder to leave the house. And when you leave, you'd be looking consciously at your watch every fricking few minutes because you are so worried about the babe you left at home.
Last year when I attended a Christmas party and could not bring the baby, I was so worried because Bunso was crying and looking for me, they just can't comfort him. When I got home he was so tired of crying he slept right away in my arms. I have not left Bunso since then. If an event can't accommodate Bunso, I decline automatically.
Weee! It's Ber months again.
I so missed shopping alone.
As a working mom way back more than 5 years ago, my Christmas shopping started early. I would usually leave the house 30 minutes earlier than my usual schedule so that I could use it to scout the mall before I report for my shift. Ah, the wonders of actually touching, inspecting, and buying something.
Now as SAHM with no helper, my life savers are Lazada and Shopee. These apps help a lot and I have no qualms. But still, I miss the usual mall shopping.
When we go to malls now, I always have at least 1 kid with me. While browsing the shelves, one would say he's hungry or the other one would want to pee. Or you are more focused on watching over your kids because you are afraid of sick people you read from the news who do bad things to kids.
Kaya online shopping na lang muna.
This is just a season in my life with young kids. Eventually they will grow up and I'd be able to do again these things I missed. And the things we do now: the guards at my toilet, the mess, the stress, the clinginess - all of these and more, I will surely miss in the future.
For now I have to suck it up and enjoy the ride with the kids. They are my everything and I can do anything for them.
*Grabs a chocolate bar*